DEAR JANE: My boyfriend proposed in the WORST place imaginable. So I had to say no

Dear Jane,

My fellow and I are some successful our precocious 20s and we've been unneurotic for much than 3 years.

Over the past fewer months, I've had a feeling that helium mightiness suggest soon though I didn't cognize for certain.

His household lives successful Florida and we planned a speedy travel to sojourn them for his mom's 60th day solemnisation past week.

But connected the past time of our trip, my fellow insisted we walk the time astatine Disney World successful Orlando, conscionable the 2 of us.

I person to say, I recovered this bizarre. I americium not a immense instrumentality of taxable parks and had nary thought that helium was either. But I went on with the excursion nevertheless and was blessed to stroll astir the resort, devour immoderate junk nutrient and spell connected a fewer rides.

However, arsenic the prima was setting, my fellow did the unthinkable. And, arsenic we stood successful the shadiness of Cinderella's Castle, helium got down connected 1 knee... and proposed!

I was utterly humiliated. People astir america began to clap and cheer. Some were adjacent was taking pictures and videoing us.

I instantly tried to resistance him up disconnected the level truthful we could fly from the nationalist humiliation, but helium joked that helium wasn't budging until helium got an answer.

So... I said no.

We near the parkland instantly and drove backmost to his household location successful silence. As you tin imagine, things person been awkward since.

I emotion my fellow truthful much, but I americium questioning everything now.

He chose to suggest to maine successful a spot that is not lone humiliating but has nary value to either of america oregon our relationship.

What bash I do?

From,

Disney Disaster 

Dear Disney Disaster,

We are each quality and doing the champion we can. Even so, we inactive marque mistakes.

When radical we emotion messiness up, alternatively than clasp it against them, it is champion to find the grace to forgive them. It's important to retrieve that their volition was ever good, adjacent if the extremity effect was not what we wanted.

The information is, your fellow loves you and was trying to find a memorable mode to propose. 

It wasn't what you had successful mind, nor did the mounting clasp immoderate peculiar significance, but this is not something I would clasp against him. 

In fact, if you tin find it successful yourself to forgive him, this could beryllium thing you volition laughter astir unneurotic for galore years to come.

He was doing the champion helium could and you should effort to absorption connected the information that helium loves you capable to suggest successful a nationalist place, which is simply a precise courageous happening to do, irrespective of wherever helium did it.

I person to ideate that, arsenic humiliated arsenic you were, helium was arsenic humiliated by your trying to resistance him distant and past saying no.

A connection takes conscionable a fewer minutes and matters far less than a marriage, which is (hopefully) for a lifetime. 

By each means, archer your fellow wherefore you were upset. But, frankly, this is eminently forgivable and surely should not colour however you determination forward.

Dear Jane

I'm 47 and precocious separated from my woman of 15 years for galore reasons, 1 of which was a deficiency of sex.

I'd accidental I person a steadfast appetite for enactment and present that I've met a caller lady, the enactment is good.

But connected 1 occasion, during our pillow talk, she told maine that, for galore years, she had enactment with her ex doubly a time connected average.

Maybe I'm a small naive, but that blew maine away. We person enactment astir doubly a week, which I thought was a bully amount.

Now I'm disquieted that she isn't arsenic sexually attracted to maine arsenic she was to her erstwhile partner. Perhaps I'm not capable for her.

True, she has been done the menopause since ending her past relationship. Might that assistance explicate wherefore she is nary longer truthful sexually active?

What bash you deliberation – is doubly a week normal?

From,

Bruised Masculinity

Dear Bruised Masculinity,

It mightiness beryllium a bully thought for you to work astir menopause and however it affects a woman's libido. If your woman is up for enactment doubly a week post-menopause, I'd accidental you're successful a large position.

Women's estrogen levels alteration during menopause, and implicit a 3rd of women acquisition changes successful their tendency for sex, arsenic good arsenic their quality to bask it. 

Vaginal dryness, pain, bladder issues, and simply not wanting enactment anymore tin each origin problems successful the chamber for couples. 

Your narration is new, and intersexual appetites are ever greater astatine the beginning, careless of age. 

It whitethorn beryllium that, arsenic the narration progresses, you find that your doubly a week rolls successful the hay whitethorn lessen. That would beryllium precise normal!

At the extremity of the day, what matters astir is that you some consciousness satisfied.

The dynamic your woman had with her ex is bound to beryllium antithetic than the transportation you 2 share.

However vibrant their enactment beingness whitethorn person been, delight retrieve that it wasn't capable to support them together.

There is an look that says comparison is despair. Comparing your chamber antics to her erstwhile enactment beingness is lone going to pb to upset. 

She is with you, and enactment doubly a week aft menopause is thing to beryllium applauded, and is surely thing to interest about.