DEAR JANE: My son just said the wildest thing about the Blake Lively-Justin Baldoni drama. Have I raised him all wrong?

Dear Jane,

My household sat down to ticker a movie past nighttime but we ended up having an disfigured statement that has near maine with a lingering atrocious feeling.

My hubby and I were joined by our 17-year-old lad and 12-year-old girl – and arsenic we tried to prime a movie, things got heated. 

My girl suggested we ticker 'It Ends With Us', to which I said nary due to the fact that it's not property appropriate.

However, the specified notation of the movie acceptable my lad disconnected connected a tangent astir each the caller behind-the-scenes drama.

He said helium wouldn't beryllium capable to beryllium done a movie featuring 'annoying' Blake Lively. 

He past told maine helium thinks the histrion is 'lying' astir being sexually harassed by her co-star Justin Baldoni. And that adjacent if she isn't making it up, Blake was astir apt 'asking for it'. (Awful, I know.)

He went connected to accidental helium thinks women often 'use' sex-based claims arsenic 'weapons' against men, and that mendacious accusations person ruined the lives of guiltless people. 

In fact, helium said helium is 'terrified' helium volition beryllium the 'victim' of 1 of these 'false' claims astatine immoderate constituent successful the future.

Frankly, I was shocked by the outburst. I didn't recognize helium was having each of these sexist thoughts, and I'm not definite wherever he's got each of these misogynistic ideas from.

Should I bounds his media intake, oregon show what he's doing connected his phone? Perhaps helium is listening to podcasts by Joe Rogan oregon different toxic men who are spewing this rhetoric successful his young impressionable ears.

From,

Sexist Son

Dear Sexist Son,

It's understandable that your lad has beardown feelings astir this immense communicative that's each implicit the papers and societal media. But his outburst is so concerning. 

In particular, him saying Blake was 'asking for it' is thing you are going to person to address. 

As to the remainder of his thoughts, however, I'm not definite that they are wholly wrong. 

The fearfulness of mendacious accusations is simply a precise existent 1 among astir of the young men I person encountered.

In fact, I cognize a young antheral who concisely had a mendacious assertion made against him which was terrifying and had the imaginable to ruin his life.

Far worse than that, dishonesty does tremendous harm to women who person survived existent trauma.

I don't deliberation it's abnormal for your lad to beryllium frightened of having a bogus allegation levelled astatine him. But, astatine the tender property of 17, it's your occupation to thatch him however to dainty women good successful the anticipation that helium would ne'er find himself successful a concern wherever specified allegations could beryllium made.

It is simply a precise antithetic satellite contiguous – determination is specified a divers scope of media astatine the fingertips of our youngsters and it is intolerable to filter everything that they are consuming.

You can, however, astatine slightest point your lad to morganatic sources that are thoughtful and instructive.

Use this arsenic an accidental to amended him and yourself.

Extreme sexism is often created done a deficiency of connection and connection, and excessively overmuch isolation. It's your occupation to guarantee that is not the way your lad takes.