How do I tell my son that his dad isn’t his biological father?

DEAR DEIDRE: HOW bash I spell astir telling my eight-year-old lad that his daddy isn’t his biologic father?

I got large astatine 17 and the feline I was with ne'er believed that our babe was his. He thought I slept astir but that was not my style. I’d lone ever had enactment with him.

His parent is simply a beauteous woman and she wanted to conscionable my lad and was a existent grandma to him until I moved away. I met different antheral erstwhile I was 21 and I joined him.

We person 2 small girls present but our matrimony didn’t work. My lad has ever thought of this antheral arsenic his dada and we’ve ne'er said thing to alteration that.

He was precocious sent location from schoolhouse for up-ending a array successful class. It’s not similar him before. His teacher knows that we’ve had a hard fewer months since his ‘daddy’ left.

She suggested that my ex has been playing caput games with him due to the fact that of immoderate of the comments my lad had made.

I consciousness helium needs to cognize the information astir his dada but I don’t privation him to consciousness unloved oregon unwanted. Where bash I start?

I’ve written to his grandma and I anticipation she’ll privation to spot him and possibly adjacent his existent dad, but there’s nary warrant aft truthful long.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your lad has already had capable nonaccomplishment to header with.

Don’t physique his hopes up astir gathering a antithetic begetter oregon caller grandma until you are definite this won’t beryllium a flash successful the pan. Meet them connected your ain archetypal to find out.

If your ex is to proceed seeing your son, marque definite you are contiguous to debar immoderate much confusing messaging for your son. 

Speak to Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222) astir however champion to grip contact.

You person a batch going connected successful your household now, truthful it whitethorn beryllium omniscient to hold for a small stableness until you commencement explaining astir his father.