'I dumped my fiancé on the morning of our wedding day with five blunt words'

The greeting of your wedding time is meant to beryllium filled with excitement and nerves, but for Alexis Saya, it wasn't - truthful she called the full happening off, with a blunt five-word comment, portion her fiance laid beside her.

Alexis, who was 23-year-old astatine the time, revealed that she had been "terrified" everyone would hatred her aft making the brave determination to enactment a halt to her £30,000 wedding. It was made each the harder arsenic Alexis was really dormant successful furniture with her fiance erstwhile she realised she was making a large mistake.

While it was an incredibly hard prime to make, peculiarly connected the greeting of their wedding day, Alexis says it was the "best decision" she's ever made.

The couple, who met astatine high school astatine the property of 16 and are parents to their four-year-old daughter, experienced an on-and-off narration for respective years. Despite Alexis knowing she wasn't genuinely happy, they were owed to get joined successful Huntington, Indiana, US, connected April 16, 2023. However, erstwhile their large time arrived, Alexis, who was unemployed astatine the time, woke up and conscionable "knew she had to" cancel their wedding. So she turned to her spouse and said: "We can't get joined today."

Reflecting backmost connected the important day, Alexis, who lives successful Fort Wayne, Indiana, US, shares: "I don't deliberation that I've genuinely ever done thing harder. I felt similar it was a determination I had conscionable made but astir I didn't person a accidental successful it. I didn't person power implicit it.

"It was astir 6am. I said, 'I'm sorry, we can't get joined today'. He benignant of looked astatine maine and went backmost to sleep. I went into different country and called my mum. My sister was connected the telephone with different household telling them that I wasn't going to spell done with it.

"I wanted him to spell drawback our girl truthful that I could permission due to the fact that I didn't truly privation to beryllium determination erstwhile everyone woke up and realised that I wasn't going to get married. I woke him up again and said, 'I request you to spell get her'. He was ace confused, and I said, 'We're not getting joined today'.

"He looked astatine maine and was similar 'What are you talking about'. And I said, 'Do you truly deliberation this is simply a marriage?'. He went and got her and I left. I didn't privation to but I knew that I had to. I cried that full day. It was awful. I took it harder than him. You're giving up everything you've known.

"I was a stay-at-home mum astatine the clip truthful I had nothing. I didn't person a job, I didn't person wealth of my own. Everything was his." The mum-of-one took their girl to walk clip astatine her mum's location earlier she moved backmost into her aged flat without her partner. While Alexis admitted to being successful a "bad spot aft the wedding", she present believes she made the close choice.

She says, "Right aft I had wished that I'd gone done with it. I retrieve thinking, it was astir 3pm, 'I'd already beryllium joined now'. I got into a truly atrocious palace aft the wedding. I conscionable couldn't judge that I'd really made the decision. I regretted it truthful severely for astir apt a while. Then it came to a constituent that I was truly blessed that I did it.

"I knew that I wasn't blessed successful the relationship and I knew that. I conscionable ever tried to marque myself judge that I was due to the fact that I loved him. It's thing that I'll ever person with me, and it's a trauma that I deliberation I'll ever carry, but I've recovered a mode to header and woody with it better. But I deliberation it was perfectly the champion determination for maine and my daughter.

"[My daughter] was astir apt the biggest crushed I left. It came to a constituent wherever if I couldn't bash it for her, past it conscionable isn't fair. This is her lone childhood, and I'm successful complaint of it. That's the champion determination I've ever made, adjacent if it's hard to accept.

"Everytime I spot him it's a reminder of wherefore I left. I ever wonderment sometimes erstwhile it's precocious astatine night, and I'm successful bed, and I'm lonely, and I'm conscionable like, 'Oh, I privation I conscionable had my household back'. I deliberation of lone the bully times, and past I spot him again, and it conscionable reminds maine each implicit again of the atrocious that outweighs each of the good. And that's wherefore I left."

The mates got engaged successful 2020, soon aft welcoming their archetypal kid together, but Alexis explains that their relationship had been connected and disconnected betwixt 2019 and 2023. Alexis said: "The narration wasn't a bully relationship. We were young, we were stupid. We purposely had a babe young, which I would ne'er regret. He gave maine the champion happening ever successful my life. I'm everlastingly thankful to him for that.

"After my girl was calved we had breached up a fewer times and got backmost unneurotic a fewer times. I deliberation I had successful full 3 oregon 4 rings due to the fact that of however galore times we'd breached up. We'd yet successful 2022 started readying the wedding. It was going to beryllium a beauteous wedding. I was precise excited. I deliberation things benignant of shifted for me."

The mum-of-mum ne'er planned to enactment an extremity to their narration connected her wedding time and was "terrified" of the consequences. "When you bash marque decisions similar that you deliberation everyone's going to hatred you. That's however I felt. I thought I was going to suffer my mum due to the fact that she paid for the wedding. I was terrified," Alexis says.

She adds, "I consciousness similar radical deliberation conscionable due to the fact that I accidental I near connected my wedding time 'she indispensable conscionable not attraction oregon beryllium capable to bash whatever'. It was terrifying, truly. It was precise hard. Even my ain household said, 'Well wherefore did you wait'. I genuinely went to furniture that night, reasoning I was going to aftermath up and get married. You besides lone spot a snippet of the situation. I deliberation it's each situational.

"I would ne'er person chosen it to beryllium that day. I ne'er did thing maliciously towards him. I ne'er wanted to wounded him. We had talked connected the telephone that time aft I left. Maybe 4pm. I was conscionable crying 'I didn't privation to bash this to wounded you. I conscionable couldn't bash it'."

Alexis, present a pupil nurse, has since shared her communicative connected TikTok with photos from her wedding day, accumulating 144,100 views. arsenic the video went viral. One photograph shows Alexis connected the time she tearfully near her fiancé and different 16 months aboriginal arsenic she happily beams astatine the camera.

Many TikTok users took to the comments to praise Alexia for her "brave" decision, arsenic 1 wrote: "Congrats connected putting yourself first." A 2nd penned: "That indispensable person been truthful hard," portion a 3rd said: "You are truthful brave. So immoderate radical wouldn't bash this adjacent if they felt it."

Others questioned the timing, arsenic 1 commented: "Why the wedding day?" and different asked: "Why bash radical ever hold for the wedding day? That's truthful scary." However, having made the close determination for herself, the azygous mum is present encouraging anyone other who is "questioning" their narration to leave.

She says, "I would archer anybody that if you adjacent person a question of if you should permission past you should. And you mightiness spell backmost but you mightiness not and it mightiness beryllium the champion determination you ever make. It is the hardest happening to bash to leave. I inactive can't judge I did it.

"There's inactive times it's hard but, I person to punctual myself I volition find idiosyncratic that loves maine and my daughter. I cannot hold to get joined 1 day. I can't hold to person much kids."