I feel so betrayed after catching my husband looking at naked women online

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER weeks of suspecting my hubby was cheating, I caught him looking astatine bare women connected his telephone done the reflection successful our surviving country window. 

Now I don’t cognize if I should consciousness relieved that he’s not having an matter oregon aggravated that he’s betraying maine successful bid to gratify himself.

I’m 52, my hubby is 56, and we’ve been joined for 24 years. 

We’ve ever had a large relationship, but successful caller years we’ve grown distant, and our sexlife has taken a hit. 

Over the past fewer weeks, I’d noticed however guarded helium had go with his phone.

Whether helium was turning the surface distant from maine oregon turning the brightness down, I was paranoid that helium was talking to different women. 

He’s connected his telephone 24/7 but it wasn’t until I noticed the reflection of his telephone that I realised he’d been indulging successful online porn.

Now I’m astatine a loss. I cognize he's not really 'cheating' but I consciousness truthful hurt. 

DEIDRE SAYS: Whether he’s cheated oregon not, your hubby has inactive betrayed your spot and near you feeling hurt.

It’s champion if you some woody with this occupation head-on. If your sexlife is suffering, it’s apt that he’s turned to porn to capable that void.

If possible, suggest you some be enactment therapy together. Contact COSRT (cosrt.org.uk) who tin assistance you find a reputable enactment and narration therapist.

I’m sending you my enactment packs How To Look After Your Relationship, to help.