I have a girlfriend but got a woman pregnant after a quickie on mate’s stag weekend

DEAR DEIDRE: MY mate’s stag play has turned into a full nightmare aft I got a pistillate pregnant.

I’m 31 and person a woman of 27. We’ve been unneurotic for 2 years.

All my mates are astatine the property wherever they’re settling down, including my champion mate, who was getting married.

We arranged a superb stag play for him successful Barcelona.

On the 2nd nighttime there, the speech turned to cheating. I said, “Hand connected heart, I’ve ne'er cheated”, and my mates roared with laughter. It turns retired they had each cheated connected partners astatine immoderate time.

A radical of women showed up successful the barroom wherever we were and joined us.

It was affable banter but, arsenic the nighttime went on, 1 of them said she had to spell backmost to their flat to get medicine she needed.

The guys were cajoling maine to spell with her, hoping that I’d yet suffer my “cheating virginity”.

I’m ever a man and felt it wasn’t close that she walked unsocial astatine nighttime successful a unusual place, truthful I volunteered to travel her.

As we walked done immoderate gardens, it was precise quiescent and she turned to buss me.

I stupidly responded. We had enactment connected a bench. I felt truthful guilty, though. We sorted ourselves retired and walked backmost to her flat without saying a word.

Now, my worst-case script has happened. The woman, who is 23, made interaction connected societal media, saying she’s large and I’m the dad.

My woman can’t abide cheats — we’ve talked astir our loyalty towards 1 another.

I’m a first-class idiot and I don’t cognize what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: The shot is successful this different woman’s court. Only she tin determine if she wants to spell up with the pregnancy. If she does, explicate that you privation a DNA trial erstwhile the babe is born.

If the kid is yours, past you volition beryllium liable financially – and preferably, emotionally.

A kid deserves 2 loving parents so, adjacent if you can’t beryllium with the mother, it doesn’t mean you can’t beryllium a bully father.

It is worthy reasoning astir whether you tin postpone talking to your woman until you tin bash a DNA test. If you deliberation she whitethorn find retired beforehand, it would beryllium champion that she hears the information from you.

You’ll person to beg for forgiveness and whitethorn person to judge that this narration is over, nary substance what the outcome.