I look nothing like my dad – should we do a DNA test?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY dada has precocious admitted that helium shares my presumption - that helium whitethorn not beryllium my father.

I’m a antheral of 30 and my member is 25. He precocious got joined and I was the champion man. When I scrutinised the wedding photographs, I realised however antithetic we looked.

I’m blonde with bluish eyes and my brother’s hairsbreadth is precise acheronian with brownish eyes. Neither of america look similar our father.

When I was astatine school, we were talking astir DNA successful biology and I wondered past whether my dada was biologically related but I enactment it retired of my mind.

Mum and Dad divorced erstwhile we were small kids. She’d cheated connected my dad. She near america and we don’t spot her.

When Dad saw the wedding photos, helium mentioned what I was thinking. Shouldn’t we bash immoderate checks?

DEIDRE SAYS: You’d beryllium opening up a tin of worms and for what purpose? It would origin accent and upset for each of you.

What’s important is that your begetter brought you up, helium loved you and nurtured you and past some. He’s been mum and dada to you both.

It’s beauteous communal not to look similar a genitor oregon sibling and doesn’t needfully mean that you’re not related.

Your dad’s doubts are much apt to bash with his feelings astir your mother’s behaviour earlier they divorced. Weddings tin get to you similar that.

Instead, promote him to speech to a counsellor done BACP - British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, (www.bacp.co.uk, 01455 883300).