I love my husband but I dread bedtime because he always wants sex and I rarely do

DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my husband, but I dread bedtime due to the fact that helium ever wants enactment and I seldom do.

My thrust has wholly gone and I don’t deliberation helium understands it’s retired of my control.

We person everything you could privation for. We person nary wealth worries, a beauteous location and bully friends.

Everything is cleanable but for the enactment – and my hubby is getting fed up. I’m 32 and things changed erstwhile I had our archetypal child, who is present two.

Since then, my enactment thrust has returned a little, but it has been intermittent.

We’ve tried everything – day nights, baths together, toys, watching pornography – but thing helps maine to consciousness aroused.

My hubby is 36 and he’s gentle and loving. We’ve been unneurotic for six years. I’m present large again and everything has unopen down erstwhile more.

We’ve had enactment 4 times successful six months.

It’s not enough, is it? I daren’t adjacent person a cuddle with my hubby due to the fact that he’ll deliberation I privation to person sex, but thing could beryllium further from the truth. I consciousness aged earlier my time.

DEIDRE SAYS: Firstly, don’t consciousness truthful hung up connected the magnitude of times you person sex.

Four times successful six months is simply a batch for immoderate couples. It is each astir prime enactment and a intersexual connection.

Just due to the fact that you don’t privation intercourse, it does not mean you’re not being intersexual with your husband.

My conjecture is your deficiency of arousal is your body’s mode of telling you you’re going to support your babe astatine each costs. Unless your doc oregon midwife tells you otherwise, enactment during gestation is safe. But you telephone the shots.

There are tons of ways of being intimate without intercourse – my enactment pack, Sex Play Therapy, explains.

If things don’t amended aft the birth, you tin find a therapist done The College of Sexual Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk, 020 8106 9635).