I’m a hot cougar but there’s one toy boy I’d never date – it means I’d be in competition and I like to be in charge

A SELF-CONFESSED cougar has shared immoderate of her dating wisdom, including the benignant of feline she'd ne'er discarded her clip with.

Tara Gen is proudly successful her fifties but prefers to day men decades younger - but it's not ever creaseless sailing for the gran.

Having antecedently dated men younger than her sons, who are 30 and 24, Tara has plentifulness of acquisition nether her loop and doesn't attraction what trolls deliberation astir her dating life.

She precocious took to TikTok to explicate wherefore she'd ne'er day a definite benignant of bloke and wherefore others should steer wide too.

"Whatever you do, don't day the beauteous man," she said successful the viral societal media clip.

According to Tara determination is simply "too overmuch competition" for it to beryllium worthy it.

Instead, she urged viewers to settee for a "decent looking man" who has a "good heart".

"I'm telling you, you volition prevention yourself truthful overmuch headache," she added.

In the video, Tara went connected to accidental being the "big food successful the small pond" is truthful overmuch amended erstwhile it comes to dating.

Not lone that, but picking a antheral based connected looks unsocial doesn't ever wage disconnected since looks fade, Tara explained.

Previously, the gran besides urged singletons to spell for different benignant of antheral that's often overlooked.

"Don't place the abbreviated kings," she said successful a recent TikTok video.

"They are funny, they're smart, and they're truthful unbelievably sweet."

Tara knows a happening oregon 2 astir however large abbreviated men tin beryllium since her ain dada was importantly shorter than her mum.

"The champion happening she ever did was wed that man," she added.

After sharing her dating tips connected societal media others agreed with her points, with 1 idiosyncratic commenting connected the clip: "Finally, a pistillate connected present that gets it!"

A 2nd agreed: "Yes looks slice prime idiosyncratic nice alternatively ladies."

"Great advice, this is wherefore I'm inactive single," different wrote.

Although Tara, who is successful her fifties, didn't accidental if she had dated immoderate abbreviated men she's decidedly nary alien to breaking narration norms.

In the past she's dated men younger than her sons, who are 30 and 24, and adjacent has men begging to spell retired with her whenever she posts contented connected societal media.

She besides revealed she hates erstwhile younger men privation her to beryllium their "sugar cougar" and ablution them successful gifts, she revealed.

Because of this, the gran confessed she usually keeps her emotion of younger men "on the down low", and adjacent has to marque definite she's not friends with the parents of her romanticist partners.

She explained she's not looking for a hubby and conscionable wants to person amusive with her young lovers.

This came aft idiosyncratic commented connected a erstwhile video and wrote: "For the young guys, conscionable deed and run. These women are damaged goods."

But the gran had nary clip for haters and explained that she's not looking for love.

In fact, it's the men who support chasing her.

"Strangely enough, I can't get escaped of them erstwhile I've dated them they won't spell away," she said.

Tara explained she tin archer if she's going to deed it disconnected with idiosyncratic instantly, but they often get the incorrect content and she ends up having to interruption it disconnected with them.

She confessed she doesn't privation to discarded her clip with idiosyncratic she's not compatible with, dissimilar the younger men she dates.

The blonde quality is truthful fashionable online that she was adjacent contacted by a casting institution to look connected a world amusement astir cougar moms.

Though she's received plentifulness of opportunities, it hasn't ever been sunshine and rainbows for her.

Since she's go fashionable online, Tara has received inappropriate messages.

Among the worst are unsolicited bare photos, oregon men saying that they cognize wherever she lives and would travel to battle her.