I’m convinced my wife is offering herself up to her boss for designer gear

DEAR DEIDRE: MY woman enjoys the precocious beingness truthful overmuch that I’m convinced she’s offering herself up to her brag successful speech for decorator gear.

Most upsetting is I tin spot she has nary volition of stopping. 

When I caught her out, she claimed the saucy pictures they’d exchanged were conscionable flirting. It feels similar she’s taking maine for a fool. 

I’m 34 & my woman is 32. We’ve been joined for 4 years. 

She’s ever been precise vocation driven, with a occupation that takes her each implicit the world.

It ne'er bothered me, arsenic we had a bully narration and a precise satisfying sex life. 

She likes the finer things successful beingness - things I can’t ever spend to wage for, similar costly jewellery.

Recently, I noticed she was becoming distant and I started to get suspicious. She besides seemed to person caller decorator shoes. 

I got suspicious and decided to cheque her telephone erstwhile she was successful the shower. 

I recovered messages from her boss, referencing a league abroad, with precise suggestive remarks. 

There was adjacent a photograph of her successful underwear that I’ve ne'er seen. It seemed wide that thing intersexual had occurred betwixt them. 

Gutted, I confronted her. She told maine I was being ridiculous and that the messages were simply flirting. 

She claimed she conscionable played on with him to support him sweet. She’s up for a promotion and she’s conscionable making him deliberation she likes him.

It doesn’t ringing true. And wherever has she abruptly got the wealth for her caller Louboutins?

To me, her lying is adjacent worse than her cheating. It feels similar I don’t cognize who she is anymore.

And if she isn’t having an affair, what she’s doing seems tantamount to prostitution.

DEIDRE SAYS: Even if your woman is telling the information - and it does look doubtful - past what she’s doing is wholly inappropriate, some arsenic an worker and arsenic a wife.

And immoderate brag offering a promotion successful instrumentality for sexy pics would beryllium breaking immoderate company’s argumentation and, astir certainly, the law. 

Talk to her again and archer her however distressed you are astir this. Ask if she’s truly a consenting participant, and if the gifts and promotion prospects are worthy ruining your matrimony for. 

If she truly doesn’t privation to stop, past you request to deliberation astir whether you privation to stay joined to idiosyncratic who has truthful small respect for you and your matrimony vows.

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