I’m having the best sex at 63 after thinking menopause killed my libido – I’ve had toyboys & swinging boosting orgasms

ON the outside, best-selling writer Suzanne Noble may look similar the eventual representation of respectability - she wears astute outfits, runs a palmy concern and lives successful an upmarket enclave successful London.

But alternatively than heading to a posh Waitrose store to bash her weekly shopping connected Saturday and Sunday, her weekends are much daring than that.

Two decades ago, erstwhile Suzanne was successful her 40s, she wrote an anonymous book that caused a disturbance with its scandalous tales of her sexual exploration.

And now, aged 63, she is enjoying sex that is conscionable arsenic pleasurable arsenic it was successful her younker – if not adjacent better.

Whether it’s a mind-blowing rendezvous with her person oregon caller experiences with multiple partners, Suzanne's 60s person ''heralded a intersexual smorgasbord of delights''.

One caller juncture saw Suzanne being offered a sensual massage by a nonrecreational masseur - which past turned into a mind-blowing intersexual encounter.

However, conscionable 10 years agone she was floundering, with precise small intimacy astatine all.

The menopause had killed her libido and the vigour successful the bedroom, with Suzanne bravely admitting she believed she'd ne'er consciousness similar having enactment again.

''I’m surviving impervious that adjacent the astir sexually vivacious of women tin beryllium laid debased by midlife hormonal changes,'' she shared with Mail Online.

''And I can’t emphasise capable what a sound it was to my assurance to find myself truthful sexually depleted.

''I hardly recognised myself arsenic my full individuality had been built upon an representation of myself arsenic a confident, sensual being.''

Sharing her story, the writer admitted that though it took her years to reignite her ''confidence and desire'', she yet got there.

''But I did it, and present I’m connected a ngo to amusement women – and men – conscionable however invigorating and fulfilling intimacy tin beryllium astatine immoderate age.''

Suzanne's involvement successful enactment was ignited successful her aboriginal 40s, aft a monogamous ten-year marriage to her children’s begetter ended successful divorce.

While the mates were inactive together, Suzanne recalls, their enactment beingness was alternatively ''vanilla'' and included the ''missionary position''.

For a while, they shared their astir intimate moments conscionable erstwhile a week - but during the last 4 years they didn’t person immoderate enactment astatine all.

After ending the relationship, Suzanne enjoyed six months of dates with men she had encountered online, earlier gathering a antheral named Daniel who became her adjacent partner.

''He was incredibly sexual, and helium awoke a effect successful me. During the 2 and a fractional years we were together, helium opened up a satellite of intersexual pleasance and experimentation that I hadn’t known existed . . . including inviting others to articulation america successful bed, thing that had lone featured successful my astir secret fantasies.''

Their clip unneurotic changed her cognition to enactment and acceptable the code for the adjacent decennary of Suzanne's life.

The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker

With a intersexual appetite that was raging, Suzanne decided she didn’t privation different superior narration - and instead, wanted to research each intersexual phantasy she'd ever had.

In 2006, aged 45, the mum-of-two published a publication – The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker – which chronicled her insatiable appetite for enactment and the daring liaisons she sought out.

''Written nether the pseudonym Suzanne Portnoy to support my then-teenage sons, the publication was a candid exploration of my hedonistic adventures, including taking portion successful the swinging scene and different alternate intersexual lifestyles.

''I had threesomes, foursomes and more.''

Suzanne has besides gone connected naturist holidays and taken tantric lessons.

However, her astir memorable brushwood was a threesome with a long-time swinging spouse and his mate, during which they each orgasmed simultaneously.

The publication sparked a mixed effect - but ultimately, it struck a chord, sparking agelong overdue conversations astir pistillate sexuality.

Suzanne's inbox was soon afloat of emails from committed couples who credited her publication with revitalising their enactment lives.

The Butcher, The Baker, The Candlestick Maker went connected to go a bestseller, printed successful aggregate languages, and was republished successful 2013 pursuing the immense occurrence of Fifty Shades Of Grey.

''I’ve surely ne'er regretted my determination to trial the boundaries of my intersexual desires,'' the mum-of-two said.

''Although I recognise galore radical person nary involvement successful exploring non-monogamy, arsenic a single, 40-something pistillate I wasn’t hurting anyone.

''I practised harmless enactment and was focused connected pleasance alternatively than affectional transportation astatine that time.

''I ever archer azygous women, if you’re going to research your sexuality, your 40s are the champion clip to bash it due to the fact that you person the payment of affectional maturity, enactment entreaty and stamina.''

Hot flushes, vaginal dryness, a dwindling enactment drive

At the clip Suzanne wrote her book, she thought her intersexual appetites would past for ever - however, she was wrong.

The infinitesimal the mother-of-two, whose sons are present successful their 30s, realised her body was changing dramatically.

It was astatine her 50th day bash - a backstage swinging party - erstwhile Suzanne looked astatine each the guests having enactment astir her and reasoning she's ''so implicit this''.

For the archetypal time, she had nary tendency to articulation successful and felt jaded.

Two weeks later, Suzanne met Oliver, a bloke 16 years her junior.

The narration was precise accepted and saw the 2 going for drinks and meal earlier they yet slept together.

Although the monogamous narration went connected for a fewer years and was ''wonderful'', Oliver wasn't peculiarly funny successful opening up their narration - and neither was Suzanne.

Then menopause genuinely deed her, bringing with it challenges she ne'er saw lurking astir the corner.

''Hot flushes, vaginal dryness, a dwindling enactment thrust and an expanding waistline derailed my enactment beingness and my confidence,'' Suzanne said.

''I genuinely grieved the nonaccomplishment of my libido and wondered whether I would ever consciousness sexy again.''

The narration began to beryllium rocky - and successful the end, Suzanne's conflict with menopause led to their divided aft astir 5 years together.

Initially, Suzanne thought her intersexual days were present implicit - but arsenic clip went connected and the symptoms began to ease, Suzanne wondered if the turmoil was an accidental to permission her chaotic years down - oregon redefine what she genuinely wanted.

Finding intersexual mojo again

A fewer years later, Suzanne started a podcast called Sex Advice for Seniors, with a person called Peter, who is besides successful his 60s.

When Peter expressed an involvement successful swinging, she took him to a small, backstage party, wherever she felt much similar a circuit usher alternatively than an progressive participant.

Since then, the mother-of-two has dilatory recovered her once-lost intersexual mojo again.

Although she is nary longer the beingness and psyche of the enactment and has dipped backmost into swinging each present and then, Suzanne is blessed that way.

At 63, Suzanne tin confidently accidental that she inactive enjoys a satisfying enactment life.

She is not looking for a soulmate and surely doesn’t privation to beryllium ''someone’s nursemaid'' - but Suzanne is blessed with a intersexual spouse – and sometimes partners – she deems charismatic and who understands however to delight her.

Taking attraction of yourself

For Suzanne, taking attraction of herself has go key.

As good arsenic working out galore times a week which helps her consciousness sexy and boosts a consciousness of empowerment, Suzanne is besides a steadfast believer successful gorgeous lingerie.

It doesn’t needfully request to beryllium skimpy - a beauteous silk oregon satin negligee volition assistance to marque you consciousness glamorous, she said.

Most importantly, Suzanne added, it's indispensable to find a fewer hours erstwhile you tin deterioration specified things – for instance, connected a day with your spouse astatine a weekend.

Hotels tin beryllium thrilling, but according to the mum-of-two couples tin besides make a sensual ambiance successful the chamber with candles and brushed euphony successful the background.

''If your emotion beingness with a semipermanent spouse has go stale, but you’re feeling brave, past see each making a database of each the things you mightiness bask exploring successful the chamber – arsenic good arsenic thing you decidedly don’t privation to do.''