I’m married but have been meeting with male and female escorts – and now I have lump on my penis

DEAR DEIDRE: MEETING pistillate and antheral escorts fulfilled my intersexual fantasies, but present I’ve recovered a lump connected my penis and I’m filled with dread.

I fearfulness I’ll person to archer my wife, though we haven’t had enactment successful years.
I’m consumed with guilt and cognize I should stop, but I’m not definite how.

I’m 48 and person been joined for 20 years. We had a decent enactment beingness until a fewer years ago, erstwhile my wife, present 46, abruptly stopped wanting it.

Whenever I tried, she’d say: “All you attraction astir is sex.”

I felt wounded and rejected, but she wouldn’t sermon it.

I was truthful frustrated and started to ticker much and much porn. I recovered myself looking astatine cheery porn and fantasising astir cheery sex, contempt ever reasoning of myself arsenic straight.

Soon, I recovered myself connected enactment sites, too. The impulse continued to make and I began arranging to conscionable these radical truthful I could really person the enactment I craved.

I’ve met astir 10 escorts for enactment — including a fewer men. The enactment is great, but afterwards, I consciousness grubby.

And though I’ve been having harmless sex, I’ve present recovered a lump connected my penis. I americium terrified it’s an STI.

What if I request antibiotics oregon person caught thing incurable? I’ve realised that watching porn and seeing escorts hasn’t made maine happier — conscionable much anxious and bitter.

All I privation is to beryllium intimate with my woman again, but I’m frightened I’ve gone excessively acold and our matrimony volition beryllium implicit for good.

DEIDRE SAYS: Try not to panic. A lump connected the penis whitethorn person galore causes. But it’s important you sojourn an STI session for a diagnosis.

It sounds similar this has fixed you the wake-up telephone you needed to get help.

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