I’m terrified of failing but can’t motivate myself to study

DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I’m terrified of failing, I can’t motivate myself. I’m truthful lazy, I’ll bash thing to debar studying.

I deliberation it’s due to the fact that I utilized to beryllium bullied successful the past. Now I judge I’m arsenic useless arsenic radical said I was, truthful what’s the constituent successful trying.

I’m 25 and studying to beryllium a plumber. 

But adjacent though I truly privation to bash good and person a palmy aboriginal career, I find it specified a conflict to survey connected my ain astatine home.

I beryllium staring astatine my notes, and messiness astir connected societal media oregon ticker TV instead. Hours spell by and I’ve done nothing.

I’ve got exams coming up and I’m beauteous definite I’m going to neglect them each if I can’t get myself into cogwheel soon.

Part of maine wants to amusement each the teachers and ex classmates who enactment maine down, called maine anserine and laughed astatine me, that I tin beryllium successful.

However, different portion of maine fears they were close and I’m a pathetic discarded of space.

This is getting maine down truthful much. I deliberation I request help.

DEIDRE SAYS: You are not lazy, useless oregon a failure. You deficiency self-belief and self-confidence, unsurprisingly fixed your past of being bullied and enactment down.

Sometimes, it feels easier and much comfy to self-sabotage than to marque an effort and inactive fearfulness failure.

Reading my enactment battalion connected Building Self-Esteem should assistance you find ways to summation much assurance and self-belief.

Ask your people tutor for enactment and guidance with studying, and if your workload feels daunting, interruption it up into smaller sections.  

Make definite you program tons of breaks and treats, truthful the enactment doesn’t look overwhelming.