I’m worried about confessing to my boyfriend that I kissed his best mate

DEAR DEIDRE: I MIGHT person to confess to my fellow that I kissed his champion mate but I’m disquieted astir what he’ll do. He’s got a brainsick temper.

We are some 22 and my fellow has cheated connected maine a fewer times. I support forgiving him but since I recovered out, I spell retired binge-drinking.

I can’t power myself. I person kissed guys to people points.

I was coming location from my Christmas bash connected the bid with a colleague. He’s conscionable a friend.

My fellow was walking on to conscionable maine disconnected the platform. When my workfellow hugged maine goodbye astatine our station, my fellow attacked him.

Last nighttime I was retired with a person and ended up kissing my boyfriend’s champion mate.

Today I’ve had a connection from him saying that though I came connected to him, helium liked it and erstwhile tin we conscionable up? Help!

DEIDRE SAYS: There is simply a batch to unpick here. It is not OK for your fellow to behave truthful violently – 1 time his aggression whitethorn go directed astatine you. 

In presumption of your cheating, it seems drinking is the catalyst. 

My conjecture is if you were sober, you’d ne'er imagination of cheating. You cognize yourself however it hurts to beryllium cheated on.

Vow to portion little truthful you are successful power and archer your boyfriend’s mate that you made a mistake. If there’s immoderate accidental of him telling your fellow what happened, you’ll person to archer him first.

Neither of you seems superior astir your narration truthful bash deliberation cautiously astir whether you should beryllium with this feline astatine all.