I’m worried what my narcissistic daughter-in-law will do now she’s pregnant

DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter-in-law is the astir conniving and narcissistic pistillate I’ve ever met, and present that she’s pregnant, I'm sick with interest that my unborn grandchild volition go a chess portion successful her selfish games.

I’m 65, my lad is 34, and his woman is 32. They’ve been unneurotic for 3 years, and it’s harmless to accidental it’s been a implicit nightmare.

From the infinitesimal they met, she’s been intent connected isolating him and turning him against his full family.

At the opening we tried truthful hard to marque her consciousness invited and accepted.

My woman took her retired for lunch, we bought her thoughtful gifts for Christmas and birthdays, and we adjacent went arsenic acold arsenic inviting her connected our household holidays. 

Yet each she’s done is repeatedly propulsion our kindness backmost successful our faces.

From being outright rude and making snarky remarks to manipulating situations to marque our lad deliberation severely of us, she’s gone supra and beyond to origin occupation successful our family. 

We’ve tried to springiness her the payment of the doubt, but arsenic clip passes, the much distant our lad becomes, and it’s wide she’s the basal of the problem.

Now she’s pregnant, I’m feeling a premix of conflicting emotions. While I can’t hold to beryllium a gramps and spot my lad go a dad, I'm worried. 

DEIDRE SAYS: As hard arsenic it is to accept, unluckily you can't bash thing astir your lad and his relationship. 

He is an adult, and helium has to determine what is close for him and his increasing family. All you tin bash is proceed to bash arsenic you person been by offering kindness and support. 

You could person a speech and notation that you’ve noticed he’s distant. Ask him if thing is worrying him and fto him cognize you volition ever enactment him nary substance what.

Avoid criticising your daughter-in-law though arsenic this would marque him consciousness conflicted and is apt to propulsion him further away. 

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