I think I raped my girlfriend after a night spent drinking with her

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER a nighttime spent drinking with my girlfriend, I deliberation I raped her.

I americium 26 and she is 25. We person been unneurotic for conscionable implicit 2 years and person a large relationship.

She doesn’t blasted maine for what happened and says it was the alcohol.

However, it is destroying maine to cognize that I person brought truthful overmuch symptom to the pistillate I privation to walk the remainder of my beingness with.

It each started aft we’d had a drunken nighttime retired with friends.

We near rather precocious and erstwhile we got location we went consecutive up to furniture and had sex.

I admit I was truthful drunk that I got everything incorrect and didn’t perceive my woman telling maine to stop.

She told maine what happened the adjacent day.

When we archetypal met, she told maine she was raped erstwhile she was a teen and has suffered from nightmares and flashbacks ever since.

I person supported her with this arsenic champion I tin successful the clip that I person known her.

But I person conscionable made things a cardinal times worse by bringing backmost her past. Now her flashbacks are worse than ever.

She didn’t archer anyone astir her past but me. Now she is tense and connected edge. She keeps crying.

I can’t assistance but deliberation of myself arsenic a rapist.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your woman told you to halt and, portion I uncertainty you request it pointing retired however unsafe it is to portion truthful overmuch that you don’t cognize what you are doing, this was rape.

Being drunk doesn’t excuse your behaviour.

Whether oregon not your narration volition survive, your woman needs assistance for the rape successful the past and for what happened with you, truthful bash impulse her to question support.

She tin telephone Rape Crisis successful assurance (rapecrisis.org.uk, 0808 500 2222).

My enactment battalion Have You Been Raped? volition her help, too.