'I was horrified by message I spotted from my husband's female colleague'

A pistillate was near feeling insecure aft she noticed her hubby had been gathering up with a workfellow one-on-one down her backmost - but she was disquieted she was conscionable being 'jealous'

When you're joined to someone, you'll presume they'll beryllium faithful to you and won't skip retired immoderate juicy details astir what they're up to.

So erstwhile 1 pistillate recovered retired that her husband of 10 years had been gathering up with a pistillate workfellow down her back, she was near seething - and she lone realised due to the fact that she saw his enactment messages.

"A caller pistillate started astatine my husband's enactment astir a twelvemonth ago. They worked precise intimately unneurotic and would occasionally text, but helium has ever been unfastened astir the texts, thing secretive," the woman explained connected Mumsnet.

She shared that the pistillate workfellow is "married with children" who are the aforesaid property arsenic their kid (six), truthful they "bonded" implicit that - but she was acrophobic erstwhile she recovered retired they'd been gathering up for lunch, and helium hadn't mentioned anything.

The stressed woman shared: "He took a caller relation (same company, conscionable a antithetic team), but they had a catch-up, and she got tearful, saying she missed him. He told maine astir it, and I thought that was a small odd; I said it sounds similar much of an affectional transportation than is possibly healthy, and possibly helium should backmost off."

But alternatively than backing off, "they person been gathering for one-on-one lunches retired of the bureau during enactment time". The pistillate lone recovered retired due to the fact that she saw a connection connected his Teams that popped up "saying she was looking guardant to seeing him".

"I asked him astir this, saying wherefore person you been doing this and wherefore support it concealed if you didn't deliberation it was thing wrong?," she fumed, continuing: "I said I didn't consciousness comfy with him spending clip retired of the office, going connected walks etc conscionable the 2 of them arsenic this feels similar much of a date! I asked however galore times had they done this and helium said 2 oregon three!"

Her hubby said his workfellow was "going done a unsmooth time", and helium was providing "emotional support". The woman told him that she didn't privation him gathering up with her alone, but wasn't bothered astir radical settings arsenic "they enactment together". However, she was disquieted she was conscionable being "jealous".

In a Mumsnet poll, a whopping 89% of radical said she wasn't being unreasonable. One pistillate wrote successful response: "One of my friend's hubby did precisely this, and helium was 100% funny successful the different woman. It's a well-trodden dynamic, the selfless enactment person coating himself arsenic a leader and affectional crutch to her, but of course, 'nothing more'.

"In my opinion, if you've got to the signifier of telling him what helium can't bash due to the fact that his ain boundaries are truthful s**t, past you're wasting your clip lone to person secrecy and disrespect."

Someone other disagreed, however, sharing: "I utilized to spell retired for coffee/lunch with a antheral workfellow 3/4 times a week, often drinks aft work. We became bully friends, inactive support successful contact, went to each other’s weddings, and person been connected vacation together. Never has determination been immoderate attraction from either side."