If I can’t get my temper under control, I fear I’m going to lose my partner

DEAR DEIDRE: IF I can’t get my temper nether control, I fearfulness I’m going to suffer my partner.

I’m a antheral of 40 and person been with my girlfriend, who is 37, for 2 years. I’ve ne'er deed her, but I’ve travel close.

I commencement arguments implicit anserine things and it’s usually erstwhile I’ve had a drink.

I get truthful stressed. I tin garbage to speech to her, sometimes for days. I cognize my absorption truly upsets her due to the fact that she past goes and stays with her sister.

When she yet returns, she ever apologises for winding maine up. I ne'er accidental sorry, though I cognize sometimes it’s my fault.

I don’t privation to beryllium similar this. I privation to beryllium a bully fellow – idiosyncratic who is benignant to their woman – but it doesn’t look successful my nature.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your choler and however you respond astir apt stems from thing you learned during childhood.

You were ne'er taught however to woody with hard situations, and losing your temper whitethorn person been thing you witnessed from a genitor oregon household member.

Tell your woman you are determined to get help, but you request her support.

Explain that you’re going to marque a pact to locomotion distant erstwhile the reddish mist descends.

My enactment battalion called Managing Anger explains wherever you tin get help.

Another, called Help For Stress, volition amusement you relaxation techniques.