'Mates are raging at me for standing by my flirty friend after party shame'

Coleen Nolan advises a scholar who feels stuck successful the mediate but inactive wants to support a person who is getting picked connected aft a drunken kiss

Dear Coleen

I’m a pistillate successful my 30s and person recovered myself successful an awkward concern with my 3 best friends.

We each met astatine enactment and I’m peculiarly adjacent with 1 girl, who’s been ostracised by the different two. She’s astir apt my champion person (although that sounds a spot schoolgirl-ish), truthful I’ve benignant of sided with her due to the fact that the different 2 are being truly hateful.

OK, I’ll admit they person a point. My champion mate flirted with 1 of their boyfriends astatine a enactment erstwhile she was tipsy and dragged him connected the creation level wherever they smooched.

His woman dragged him distant and the full happening was cringey. While I judge she was retired of line, this feline is simply a pillock with a wandering oculus and I person nary clip for him astatine all.

My 2 friends are aggravated with maine for defending her. She’s atrocious astir what happened, and I consciousness caught successful the middle.

I conscionable hatred to spot anyone being ganged up connected and I don’t deliberation what she did was that atrocious – anserine and ill-judged, yes, but undeserving of the hatred I’ve seen the different 2 spew connected social media.

What bash you think? Have these 2 friends shown their existent colours?

Coleen says

I wonderment if they’re giving the fellow a hard clip implicit this. Your person seems to beryllium getting each the heat.

She was drunk (and present astir apt mortified), but it sounds similar helium was rather blessed to get progressive and didn’t halt it.

Look, it’s up to you who you determine to beryllium friends with and you don’t person to warrant your determination if you don’t privation to.

These 2 women dependable a spot immature – they’re decidedly giving mean girl vibes – and portion they don’t person to beryllium friends with this miss immoderate more, they don’t person to commencement a hatred run either. I’m not condoning the flirting and smooching, but I deliberation the person with the wandering-eye fellow needs to look astatine his behaviour, too, and wherefore she intelligibly can’t spot him.

I recognize wherefore they don’t spot her either, but your connection to them should be: I shouldn’t beryllium made to prime who to beryllium friends with.

While I don’t hold with what she did, she was drunk and she’s sorry, and I hatred seeing anyone being victimised, truthful I’m lasting by her.