My boyfriend acts like a clown and I wish he’d grow up

DEAR DEIDRE: WITHIN 2 weeks of dating my boyfriend, he’d soaked maine successful the car lavation and pranked maine galore times. I emotion him but I privation he’d turn up.

He’s 23 and he’s ever been a clown. We met astatine schoolhouse but got unneurotic 3 months ago.

His car was filthy, truthful connected the mode to sojourn his Mum, we diverted to the car wash.

The infinitesimal that the brushes started, helium dropped my model and I got drenched. He was hysterical with laughter. He’s truthful immature.

Recently we were retired with immoderate friends erstwhile my mate mislaid her handbag.

He’d taken and hid it nether immoderate coats for a laugh. She panicked and burst into tears saying, “Everything is successful that bag”. She was fuming erstwhile helium yet gave it backmost to her.

Last week we had a household day successful a pub and arsenic my Nan sat down, my fellow operated his artifact ‘fart machine’. Lots of radical laughed but my Nan and my parents were not amused.

My friends don’t look to lukewarm to him and my household deliberation he’s a first-class idiot.

Yet he’s benignant and loving to maine erstwhile we are astatine home. I’m a 25-year-old pistillate and I bash bask a laughter but not astatine others’ expense.

How tin I get him to spot that we don’t each person that aforesaid consciousness of humour? 

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s a self-defence mechanism. He lacks societal skills and my conjecture is he’s been enactment down astatine location oregon possibly his siblings were ever getting astatine him.

At school, helium whitethorn person felt helium was overlooked but learned making radical laughter is simply a mode of getting affirmative attention.

Encourage him to make much assurance by telling him that helium is capable without laying connected the applicable jokes and it’s OK to beryllium portion of the assemblage alternatively than centre stage.

My enactment battalion called Raising Self-Esteem volition amusement him however to go much confident.