My financial mess has left me unable to have sex with my wife – I’m so stressed

DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY clip I locomotion into a shop, I bargain apparel I can’t afford.

I’m present successful indebtedness and my anxiousness levels are truthful high, I’m incapable to person enactment with my wife. I’m terrified I’m going to suffer her – which conscionable makes maine walk more.

I’m a 44-year-old man, and my woman is 41. Shopping has ever been the mode I woody with accent – present it’s retired of control.

When I bargain a caller brace of jeans oregon T-shirt, it feels similar everything volition beryllium OK.

Then the guilt sets successful and I consciousness worse than ever due to the fact that I cognize my debts are spiralling. That conscionable makes maine privation to spell buying again.

I emotion my woman and find her precise sexy, but erstwhile we spell to furniture together, I can’t perform. She thinks the occupation is her. I can’t archer her the truth.

She doesn’t cognize the fiscal messiness I’m in, and I cognize she would permission maine if she recovered out.

Please help.

DEIDRE SAYS: Compulsive buying is simply a mode to flight antagonistic feelings. It gives you an adrenaline rush, which rapidly dissipates.

You request to get to the basal of wherefore you bash it. Ask your GP astir cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which tin beryllium precise effective.

Be honorable with your wife, truthful she tin assistance you and halt blaming herself.

Stress does impact libido. Getting assistance volition astir surely resoluteness this.

Read my enactment packs connected Stress, and Solving Debt Problems, which connection applicable solutions.