My girlfriend’s sister has become the third person in our relationship

DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my ex and I got backmost together, her sister has go the 3rd idiosyncratic successful our relationship. 

Whether she’s overstaying her invited astatine our house, involving herself successful our business, oregon being possessive implicit my wife, she’s driving maine mad.

I’m 35, my woman is 32, and we’ve been joined for 5 years. Her sister is 29.

They’ve ever had a adjacent relationship, but since we decided to rekindle things aft separating for 3 months, they’ve go wholly codependent.

Every week, without fail, she’ll walk astatine slightest 3 to 4 days implicit our house, and each clip she sleeps over, she and my woman enactment successful the aforesaid bed.

At first, I tried to beryllium understanding. I knew my woman had heavy leaned connected her erstwhile we separated, truthful I knew it would beryllium an adjustment. 

Yet, present it’s been 4 months, and there’s nary motion of thing changing. 

To marque matters worse, she has a inclination to overstep erstwhile it comes to our relationship. She’s perpetually making comments astir maine and what I could beryllium doing differently, and if there’s immoderate struggle betwixt my woman and I, she’s the archetypal to connection unsolicited advice.

I’ve tried to explicate to my woman however this makes maine feel, but she ever shrugs maine disconnected and says I’m overreacting. 

I’m trying to repair our narration but this is truly getting maine down.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve tried to beryllium knowing and tolerant successful this situation, but it’s wide that your sister-in-law is causing issues betwixt you that request to beryllium addressed. 

You request to speech to your woman - unsocial - and explicate precisely however you feel. Tell her that portion you’re blessed for her sister to walk clip implicit your house, you request your ain abstraction and clip together.

It would beryllium champion to acceptable boundaries together. Perhaps you tin determine connected 1 time a week for her sister to enactment instead. 

My enactment pack, Standing Up For Yourself volition assistance you beryllium assertive.