My husband is convinced I’m cheating and I’m even starting to question myself

DEAR DEIDRE: EVER since I moved distant temporarily for enactment I’ve grown adjacent to a antheral workfellow but our relationship is driving my hubby huffy with jealousy.

He’s convinced that there’s thing much betwixt america and portion I’ve done my champion to contradict it, I’m starting to question if he’s right.

I’m 43, my hubby is 45 and we’ve been joined for seventeen years. We stock 2 teenage daughters together.

I enactment successful sustainability consulting and a mates of months agone I was offered a secondment with a reputable institution successful the north.

After a fewer agelong chats with my husband, we decided I should instrumentality it. I would lone beryllium distant for 9 months and could inactive question location each different week.

Initially, I recovered it truly hard but past a beauteous workfellow sat with maine astatine lunch. He worked successful the aforesaid section and we deed it disconnected instantly.

After that, helium invited maine for a portion aft enactment and it’s harmless to accidental that we’ve been steadfast friends ever since. 

We some emotion the theatre and person been to spot rather a fewer shows connected standby together. I perfectly emotion my amusive nights retired with him. 

He's made being distant from location a batch easier. 

My hubby connected the different manus is behaving similar a petulant child. Every clip I talk to him helium snipes astir my friend.

No substance however galore times I’ve tried to reassure him it’s platonic, helium keeps insisting there’s thing fishy going on. 

Now erstwhile I spell location there’s a disconnect betwixt america and I tin archer helium doesn’t afloat spot maine anymore. 

Now helium adjacent has maine questioning myself. What if I’m successful denial and I bash similar this man? He is making maine happier than my hubby has successful years. 

Deidre says: While it’s imaginable that you whitethorn person feelings for this caller man, you beryllium it to your household to enactment connected your marriage.

The region betwixt you has understandably enactment a strain connected your relationship, and unless you enactment connected it together, things volition lone get worse.

Your hubby is apt missing you and seeing that you’re having amusive distant with your antheral workfellow is making him consciousness insecure. 

Tell your hubby you are not blessed arsenic things are and that you request to commencement talking through.

Consider immoderate couples counselling. You tin find enactment done Tavistock Relationships, (tavistockrelationships.org, 020 7380 1975).

I’m besides sending you my enactment battalion Relationship MOT to help.