My partner has taken a step back since he lost his best friend in a car crash

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner’s champion mate was killed successful a car accident. My spouse was successful the car excessively and helium survived but I’ve hardly heard from him since.

I americium pistillate and 49. The antheral I was readying to determination successful with is 53. We met online and we’ve been exclusive for implicit a year.

We’ve ne'er been capable to spot a batch of each different due to the fact that helium lives 100 miles from maine and doesn’t drive. I’m a azygous man. He’s a divorcee.

When the clang happened, it was a head-on collision erstwhile helium was travelling to a league with his boss, his champion friend, and different antheral was driving.

His ain begetter had died conscionable a fewer months before. Now helium has gone quiescent connected me.

He has admitted that helium is depressed and helium says he’s not sleeping.

He’s admitted to getting flashbacks astir waking up successful infirmary and being told the news.

It’s been 4 months and helium hasn’t returned to enactment arsenic yet. He’s walking connected crutches.

He says helium inactive wants a aboriginal with maine but needs time. I emotion him and I privation to get our narration backmost connected track.

DEIDRE SAYS: He’s successful daze with post-traumatic accent and bereaved. These events are life-changing and losing idiosyncratic nether specified unspeakable circumstances volition beryllium taking its toll.

Don’t springiness up connected him. If you tin program a travel to spot him, it volition springiness you a amended thought of however this has impacted him and whether determination is inactive country for you successful his life.

Listen to him and promote him to find immoderate nonrecreational support.

Give yourself a clip bounds to spot whether helium is capable to re-invest successful your narration but don’t hold indefinitely.

He tin find enactment done Assist Trauma Care - which helps with PTSD (assisttraumacare.org.uk, 01788 551919).  They enactment adults and children, individuals and families, affected by a wide scope of traumatic occurrences.