- Sally Land
- The Sun's Agony Aunt
- Published: 17:45, 30 Jan 2025
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of being unsatisfied with our enactment life, my hubby gave maine the greenish airy to slumber with different men.
My enactment thrust had ever been higher, truthful it meant I could get what I wanted whilst inactive being transparent successful our relationship.
Yet, present he’s admitted helium wants to slumber with different radical too, and I can’t assistance but consciousness disrespected.
I’m 48, my hubby is 52, and we’ve been unneurotic for astir 20 years.
Our narration is amazing, and we’re inactive precise overmuch successful love, but 1 happening that has ever bothered maine is our deficiency of intersexual passion.
I tried for years to marque bid with it, and contempt however overmuch I emotion him, I perpetually recovered myself falling into furniture with different men.
I’ve had a drawstring of affairs implicit the people of our relationship, and each clip my hubby recovered retired 1 mode oregon another.
Each find devastated him, but aft a portion helium grew to recognize that it had everything to bash with my intersexual needs and thing to bash with my emotion for him.
We yet came to the statement that I could beryllium non-monogamous truthful agelong arsenic I was unfastened and honorable with him.
This has worked a charm for us, and we’ve been stronger than ever.
That was until helium came to maine asking if helium could research with different women too, which near maine feeling hurt.
How is this just erstwhile my enactment thrust is truthful overmuch higher? I consciousness similar I’m not capable for him.
DEIDRE SAYS: You’re upset with your hubby wanting to research things with different people, but it’s apt his desires are rooted successful seeing you bash the aforesaid thing.
For immoderate unfastened narration to work, you some request to beryllium unafraid successful your relationship, beryllium fantabulous communicators, and beryllium capable to wholly spot each other.
It would beryllium champion to sermon things cautiously with your hubby and fig retired what to bash going forward.
While you shouldn’t hold to him seeing different women if it makes you uncomfortable, you besides request to see if it’s just for you to proceed sleeping with different men too.
If you can't hold connected this, you whitethorn request to speech it done with a counsellor, who tin usher you. You tin interaction Tavistock Relationships (tavistockrelationships.org).
My enactment battalion connected non-monogamy volition besides help.
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