My son is being taken to the cleaners by his cheating wife

DEAR DEIDRE: MY lad is being taken to the cleaners by his cheating wife. 

She had an affair, past near him, and present she’s trying to bleed him adust financially. As his mum, I can’t carnivore to spot the unspeakable effect it’s having connected him.

I’m 64 and my lone lad is 39. He and his wife, 37, person 2 children.

Six months ago, helium recovered retired she was having an matter with a enactment colleague. She told him she nary longer loved him and wanted to extremity the marriage. 

They agreed to separate. He was devastated, but wanted to bash the close happening by her and his children.

So helium offered to spell 50/50 connected the merchantability of the location and to supply adjacent attraction to the children - fractional a week each. 

He besides agreed to wage her maintenance, and to wage for each the children’s activities, apparel and childcare. 

All helium wanted was capable wealth to bargain a tiny level for himself, wherever helium could enactment up the children, and capable to person a basal living.

Stupidly - against my proposal - helium didn’t get a solicitor, saying it was excessively expensive, and believing they could divided and put everything amicably.

But present she wants much equity from the location and much maintenance, and she says helium tin lone person the kids astatine weekends. 

Plus, he’s inactive paying each the bills and her stock of the mortgage. 

He doesn’t person capable to unrecorded connected and I’m having to support bailing him out. 

His intelligence wellness is suffering. He’s not sleeping oregon eating properly, and he’s go precise depressed. 

What tin I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: Sometimes, it’s intolerable to support things amicable.

Your lad is intelligibly a bully antheral and a loving begetter but helium truly needs nonrecreational ineligible help. If helium can’t spend it, past this would beryllium a amended usage of your wealth than bailing him out. 

Usually, a solicitor volition supply the archetypal league for free. 

He and his woman mightiness payment from mediation. Give him my enactment pack, Thinking Of Divorce, which has utile accusation and links to organisations who tin help.

Encourage him to spell to the doc and get assistance with his depression. Show him my enactment battalion astir this too.

Keep connected talking to him and being determination for him.