My wife and I got into a drunk threesome and it killed our relationship – I wish I could go back

DEAR DEIDRE: NEITHER me, my woman nor my mate were reasoning consecutive erstwhile the thought of a threesome was raised – we had each been drinking excessively much.

While the enactment was the champion I’ve ever had, it came astatine a precocious terms and present I fearfulness I’ve mislaid my wife.

I’m 37 and my woman is 34. We person sons aged six and 4 and were happily joined for 11 years.

We wanted for nothing, having bought a large house, bully cars and holidays.

But a caller mates moved successful a fewer doors down from us.

We soon got to cognize them.

They were a akin property to us, we each got connected good and began to person regular nights out.

Sometimes we got takeaways, sometimes we ventured into town.

This peculiar nighttime we’d been to a caller curry house.

Once home, our neighbours invited america successful for a fewer much drinks.

The pistillate had to get up aboriginal with her kids truthful went up to furniture portion we carried connected partying.

We started talking astir intersexual fantasies and adjacent thing, maine and the neighbour were having enactment with my woman connected the settee.

I thought she enjoyed it, too, but a mates of months aboriginal she said she wanted a divorcement and was leaving me.

I was gutted. I past discovered she had been seeing the neighbour down my back.

I moved retired of the household location and my woman continued to spot this man. She’s been retired with a fewer different guys too.

She has changed truthful overmuch that I don’t recognise her.

I don’t privation her backmost and realise I’ve lone got myself to blame.

I’m present surviving successful a bedsit, wishing I could crook backmost time.

DEIDRE SAYS: As you’ve discovered, intoxicant stops galore of america reasoning clearly.

Threesomes whitethorn dependable fun, breathtaking and harmless, but often they pb to immoderate unexpected consequences.

Inviting anyone into your enactment beingness is ever a hazard and your threesome has wrecked your relationship.

But I wonderment what it said for your matrimony up to then.

You played a unsafe crippled with 1 of the astir important relationships successful your life, and lost.

If your woman felt neglected, that nighttime would person made her consciousness cheap.

Please marque definite you are determination for your sons.

You are inactive young capable to larn from this acquisition and determination on.