One minute I was having a heart racing work fling, then my world blew up

DEAR DEIDRE: A RECKLESS enactment fling was truthful breathtaking - sneaking disconnected to the woods for al fresco enactment astatine impromptu moments.

But past my workfellow fell pregnant, my woman recovered retired and present I’m sleeping connected my brother’s sofa, with obscurity to spell and nary money. I’ve mislaid everything.

My workfellow has since fixed commencement to a lad who I haven’t adjacent met.

I’m a antheral of 41 and I’m a first-class idiot. I had everything going for me. A beauteous woman of 38 and we were doing up an aged cottage.

I was moving agelong hours successful the gardens of a large edifice and past coming location to instrumentality the plaster disconnected the walls. It was truthful stressful and we started bickering. 

At the aforesaid clip I started getting affable with a miss astatine work. We went for a portion 1 nighttime aft work. She’s 29, beauteous and soon, I was having a full-blown affair.

She said she couldn’t get pregnant, truthful foolishly, I ne'er utilized protection. The matter didn’t past agelong and my woman and I sorted retired our differences.

But I was devastated erstwhile my workfellow sent a dependable enactment portion I was connected vacation telling maine she was pregnant.

She had a small lad and I paid voluntary attraction for a year, though I wasn’t 100 per

cent definite the babe was excavation and she refused DNA tests.

Last month, I broke down and told my wife. She threw maine out.

I’ve since been made redundant and can’t spend to wage maintenance.

I’ve mislaid everything — and I don’t adjacent get to spot my son.

DEIDRE SAYS: If you are inactive having doubts that this kid is yours, delight interaction the Child Maintenance Service. 

They volition inquire for grounds that proves you are not the genitor oregon tin archer the different genitor what’s happened and inquire for grounds to beryllium parentage.

If there’s nary grounds to beryllium you’re not the genitor they tin either petition a DNA trial oregon inquire the courts to marque a decision.  

However, if you cognize successful your bosom helium is your son, wherefore not physique a affirmative narration with him?

In that case, interaction the parent and accidental you privation to beryllium much than conscionable a fiscal sup-

port. You tin get further proposal done Families Need Fathers (fnf.org.uk, 0300 0300 363).

Where your matrimony is concerned, if your woman is unfastened to trying again my enactment battalion Cheating Can You Get Over It volition help.