Should I give the pay rise and give into my lover’s blackmail demands?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY workfellow is blackmailing maine for a wage rise oregon she’s going to archer my woman astir our affair.

It’s my ain anserine fault. I’m 35 and ain a car prosecute franchise. I employment 5 staff.

We person a receptionist who is 28. She’s pretty, assured and fashionable with customers.

One time she told maine her enactment beingness was rubbish. Her fellow is 30 and apparently, he’s uptight and unadventurous. He’ll ne'er springiness her oral sex.

I’ve got a precocious enactment thrust - higher than my wife’s anyway. She’s a stay-at-home mum with our lad of 4 and girl of 18 months. She’s regularly shattered truthful enactment is debased connected her agenda.

I agreed with my receptionist that we could assistance 1 different truthful agelong arsenic it was lone oral. That mode it wouldn’t beryllium due cheating.

We got unneurotic erstwhile everyone had gone location 1 night. It was amazing. Seeing her orgasm that way, gave maine the biggest turn-on.

Now she’s started coming up down maine astatine enactment and touching me. She followed maine to my car and insisted I spell down connected her there. 

It was breathtaking to statesman with but I’ve started to consciousness similar I’m playing with fire.

She’s present asking maine for much wage and erstwhile I said I wasn’t definite if the concern could tally to that she said, “I could ever telephone your wife.”

Last week she phoned maine during the evening erstwhile I was astatine home, she said she needed maine to conscionable her. I made an excuse to my woman and escaped. But I don’t similar however needy my receptionist is becoming.

I would similar to chill it a spot but she is getting much demanding. I’m disquieted I’m heading for large trouble.

DEIDRE SAYS: Yes - it sounds similar this matter could stroke up successful your face. You are cheating nary substance which mode you effort to chopped it.

Find a clip to speech to your person unsocial and archer her that this has to stop.

Explain that it’s been amusive but you some person to beryllium nonrecreational and being unfaithful isn’t helping either of your relationships.

Blackmailing you for much wealth is amerciable truthful this has to halt too.

My enactment battalion called Standing Up For Yourself volition assistance you to beryllium steadfast and wide with her and if there’s immoderate accidental that she’ll archer your wife, get determination archetypal and confess and let’s anticipation she finds a mode to forgive you.