Should I tell my cousin that her ‘charmer’ boyfriend is a monster who assaulted me?

DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T look my relative successful the oculus aft having a drunken one-night basal with her caller man.

This concealed is playing connected my caput and I privation to archer her but I’m disquieted she’ll consciousness I person betrayed her.

I’m fretting, not due to the fact that I cheated, but due to the fact that of his assertive intersexual behaviour.

I’m 26 and this antheral is 28.

He was the champion antheral astatine different relation’s wedding and delivered the funniest, astir assured code I’ve ever seen.

He charmed everyone — from the grans and large aunts down to the youngest angiosperm girls.

So astatine the extremity of the nighttime erstwhile I decided to caput for furniture I was delighted that helium casually followed maine upstairs.

Once we were unsocial successful the corridor helium asked if I fancied seeing his room.

Tipsy and precocious connected what had been a superb day, I agreed.

We had enactment - it was large amusive arsenic we were some beauteous tipsy.

Then successful the mediate of the nighttime helium woke maine up and announced helium inactive felt horny.

He demanded oral enactment this time.

I was inactive fractional dormant astatine this constituent and not truly successful the temper but helium insisted by sitting maine up successful furniture and straddling me.

He past held onto my caput truthful I couldn’t move.

I recovered the full happening precise confusing and upsetting but haven’t told anyone.

I deliberation I’ve been moving it retired but I decidedly deliberation helium assaulted me.

A week aft the wedding my champion friend, who is besides my cousin, called to archer maine she’d been retired connected a day with this aforesaid feline and they’d had the “best sex” of her life.

They’ve been retired a fewer times present and she truly likes him and feels definite they’ll go authoritative soon.

I cognize I’ve got to archer her, but the longer I permission it, the harder it becomes.

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m atrocious to corroborate that from what you person written, it decidedly sounds similar you person been sexually assaulted.

You’ve had a nasty acquisition and present you consciousness an other furniture and consciousness of work to your champion friend.

As you say, you intelligibly haven’t cheated but this concealed is coming betwixt you.

Please beryllium assured determination is nary close clip play to travel to presumption with this benignant of attack.

You request to enactment things done astatine your pace, portion keeping successful caput your extremity of telling her.

Please speech this done with idiosyncratic who tin enactment you archetypal and foremost and assistance you determine your adjacent steps.

Please interaction Rape Crisis (rapecrisis.org.uk) who enactment victims of intersexual battle and rape.