'Heartbroken and now hubby’s girlfriend driving me mad with her meddling'

Resident agony aunt Coleen Nolan has proposal for a scholar whose hubby has moved retired but his children privation thing to bash with him and his 'girlfriend' keeps emailing her

Dear Coleen

A fewer weeks ago, my hubby admitted that helium had been having an matter and said helium planned to permission maine to beryllium with the different woman. I didn’t spot it coming and it feels precise retired of character.

He’s been surviving successful a edifice country down the road, arsenic his “girlfriend” lives successful a shared location with 2 different women, truthful helium can’t unrecorded there.

The full happening is ridiculous and he’s making a full fool of himself. Needless to say, this pistillate that he’s seeing is 27, truthful astir 20 years younger than helium is.

Our children, who are 13 and 15, person beauteous overmuch disowned him and garbage to spot oregon talk to him. While I haven’t encouraged this, I can’t accidental I blasted them.

The spot I truly request assistance with is that my husband’s woman keeps emailing maine implicit him seeing the kids, saying it’s unfair and that he’s devastated due to the fact that helium feels he’s mislaid them.

It’s driving maine huffy due to the fact that this has thing to bash with her; what I really consciousness similar discussing with her is wherefore she started an matter with my hubby and wrecked our household successful the archetypal place.

I’m angry, but americium trying to enactment composed and not to occurrence disconnected furious emails due to the fact that I’m definite she’d emotion that. It’s a nightmare and I request advice.

Coleen says

I recognize wherefore your children’s loyalty lies with you; they’re feeling protective of you and are aggravated connected your behalf.

You could person a speech with them, explaining that portion their dad’s behaviour has wounded each of you, helium inactive loves them.

You tin assistance them spot that this is betwixt you and their dad, and it shouldn’t impact their narration with him. It’s a hard happening to do, but it’s the close mode to attack things and it volition payment your children successful the agelong run.

I would disregard the girlfriend’s emails – don’t get into a dialog with her. Drop those emails consecutive into the trash. You’re right, your children person thing to bash with her. I’m guessing she’s penning retired of guilt and possibly your hubby is besides giving her a hard clip implicit the kids and she thinks it’s successful her involvement to effort to spot things up.

But, immoderate her reasons, it’s up to your hubby to ain what helium did and rebuild those bridges with your children. It’s not up to her and it’s not your work either. He sounds wimpy, letting his woman nonstop emails – helium should beryllium the 1 messaging them.

You don’t beryllium this pistillate thing and it’s not your occupation to marque things easier for her, truthful archer your hubby that you’d admit it if she didn’t interaction you. Good luck.