I can’t stop having sex with my ex even though he doesn’t want to be with me

DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex has made it wide helium doesn’t privation to beryllium with me, but I can’t halt having enactment with him.

He has a caller spouse and I cognize he’s atrocious news, yet I don’t look to beryllium capable to determination on.

I’m 29 and he’s 33. We divided up a twelvemonth ago, but I’m inactive not remotely implicit him.

We had a fiery narration and argued a batch portion together.

Arguments were usually resolved by ending up successful bed, and the enactment was ever precise aggravated and exciting.

But we had 1 enactment excessively many, and helium said helium wanted to determination on. I deliberation helium already had his oculus connected different woman.

I was devastated by the divided and adjacent much upset erstwhile I recovered retired that helium had a caller girlfriend.

I was bitterly jealous and couldn’t assistance stalking her societal media.

So erstwhile helium messaged asking to conscionable up for a drink, I didn’t hesitate.

I knew we would extremity up successful furniture and that it was incorrect — but I didn’t care. I’d missed him truthful much.

Since then, we person been having enactment regularly. But afterwards, helium doesn’t enactment the nighttime — helium conscionable showers and goes backmost to his caller girlfriend.

I cognize I’m being utilized but I can’t defy him. And I besides cognize that if I archer him I don’t privation to spot him immoderate more, I volition beryllium lonely and miserable.

My societal beingness is rubbish, and I unrecorded alone.

But I privation to halt feeling similar this, and alternatively I privation to find existent love.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’re caught successful a vicious cycle. You privation to get implicit this antheral but you support connected having enactment with him, which is preventing you from moving guardant with your life.

He is simply a spot similar a cause and, similar drugs, you cognize he’s atrocious for you. Every clip you spot him, it’s an enactment of self-harm.

Read my enactment battalion Addictive Love, which describes the benignant of narration you person with him.

Sadly, you can’t dilatory wean yourself disconnected him. You request to spell acold turkey. Tell him you can’t conscionable again. Block him from your telephone and societal media.

It volition beryllium hard but, erstwhile you’ve travel retired the different side, you volition consciousness truthful overmuch amended and escaped to conscionable idiosyncratic new.

You’ll besides person clip and headspace to get progressive successful activities wherever you tin marque caller friends.

Having idiosyncratic to speech to and thin connected portion you bash this volition marque you stronger. If you can’t confide successful a friend, past deliberation astir talking to a counsellor.

My enactment battalion Moving On contains utile proposal connected however to enactment him down you.