I let my girlfriend sleep with other men because my sex drive is so low – but I’m scared my friends will find out

DEAR Deidre: BECAUSE my enactment thrust is truthful low, I judge that my woman sleeps with different men.

She adjacent near maine temporarily for 1 of them.

Still, I emotion her truthful much. But I’m anxious that my friends volition find retired astir our statement and volition justice me.

I’m 32 and she’s 29. We’ve been a couple for 8 years and unrecorded together.

She’s ne'er hidden the information that she has cheated connected maine aggregate times, adjacent having sex with 1 feline successful our bath portion I was downstairs successful the surviving room.

I don’t similar it but I tolerate it due to the fact that she has an highly precocious enactment drive, and I’m not precise sexual.

If I enactment my ft down astir it, I cognize that she would permission me, and I similar being with her.

However, she did really interruption up with maine earlier this twelvemonth for a feline she met astatine work.

She moved out, leaving maine devastated.

She came backmost a fewer months later, saying she wasn’t definite if she wanted to beryllium with him oregon me, but wanted to springiness america different try.

I didn’t get aggravated astatine her. I was conscionable blessed to person her back.

But I cognize she’s inactive having enactment with him.

What worries maine is that if different radical cognize astir her cheating they volition deliberation severely of me.

Then I volition consciousness similar I’d person to extremity the narration conscionable to prevention face, adjacent though I don’t privation to.

She’s not going to alteration and I interest that 1 time she’ll conscionable someone, autumn successful emotion and permission permanently.

What should I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: It doesn’t substance what different radical deliberation and you shouldn’t interest astir being judged for your girlfriend’s behaviour.

What is much concerning is that you are stuck successful a very unhealthy relationship.

Even though you accidental you emotion your woman and tolerate her infidelities, you are intelligibly highly unhappy and insecure.

You’re alert that you’re sexually incompatible and you interest she could permission you astatine immoderate time.

But alternatively than woody with these issues, you crook a unsighted eye, and let her to bash immoderate she wants.

She whitethorn not beryllium trying to wounded you, but she’s taking vantage of your passivity.

My enactment pack, Raising Self- Esteem, mightiness beryllium bully for you to read.

Having a low libido is not a transgression that deserves punishment by cheating.

Please speech to a narration counsellor – some unsocial and with your girlfriend.

You tin find 1 astatine tavistockrelationships.org.