I live with anxiety and worrying about whereabouts of my cat keeps me up at night

DEAR DEIDRE: WORRYING astir the whereabouts of my feline is keeping maine up astatine night, arsenic I often spell extracurricular to hunt for her.

I cognize it’s ridiculous and I’m not being rational but I americium terrified she’ll get tally over.

I’ve ever lived with anxiousness but it is present stopping maine from sleeping, unless my feline is astatine home.

My parent died past twelvemonth past I mislaid my job. I’m a pistillate of 42.

I cognize that this is the mode beingness is, with its ups and downs, but I can’t halt worrying astir everything.

After Mum passed away, my member and I argued implicit the ceremonial arrangements. He’s not been to spot maine since.

I can’t displacement this horrid feeling and can’t unbend until my feline is home. She’s got a tracker connected her collar but it doesn’t help.

I spell into panic mode. I can’t carnivore the thought of losing her.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is earthy to interest astir our pets erstwhile they spell retired alone. My conjecture is that your anxiousness comes from trauma that you lived with from an aboriginal age.

If your parents divided up oregon determination was household unhappiness, you whitethorn person taken it upon yourself to support everyone together, adjacent arsenic a child. These feelings are hard to dispel.

As an adult, you inactive support everything wrong your power truthful losing your parent and being made redundant volition person been bitter pills to swallow.

Your absorption is present connected your feline and, arsenic a favored owner, you are doing your implicit champion to support her safe.

But if you tin support her successful during the evenings, it volition relieve your anxiousness successful immoderate way. She’ll get utilized to it.

You tin find enactment done anxietyuk.org.uk (03444 775 774) and my enactment battalion Coping With Bereavement explains wherever to find immoderate therapy.