My husband’s disturbing kink has made me question everything

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER a 3 twelvemonth narration I thought I truly knew my hubby but a disturbing revelation has made maine question everything.

He has got a kink that I person ne'er adjacent heard of earlier - mummification.

While it’s not rather arsenic atrocious arsenic it sounds, it inactive makes maine enormously uncomfortable and truthful acold I haven’t been capable to oblige him.

I tin spot helium is trying to beryllium knowing but I cognize that my hesitance is simply a problem.

I’m 29 and he’s 31.

Trying to reassure me, helium explained ‘It’s conscionable wherever 1 idiosyncratic gets wrapped up truthful they can’t determination and go the other’s play thing’.

He says it’s not astir hurting me, it’s astir surrendering, constraint and the astir unthinkable release.

He wants to wrapper maine caput to toed successful bandages truthful I can’t move. I would go the ‘ultimate enactment toy’.

But the thought terrifies maine and makes maine consciousness claustrophobic. 

We person engaged successful airy bondage and a small blindfolding, but he’s ever pushing for more.

I tin spot he’s not satisfied and I deliberation he’s opening to get frustrated. As helium keeps coming backmost to this.

I’ve tried to suggest different intersexual adventures but I tin archer mummification is the 1 happening helium truly wants. 

I lone privation I had known astir his kink earlier we married. 

Is determination immoderate mode to fulfill him without indulging him successful this way, oregon adjacent to get him to alteration his intersexual preferences?

I’m worried that if we don’t lick this, helium volition cheat to fulfill his needs oregon that we volition person to spell our separate ways.

DEIDRE SAYS: No 1 should ever prosecute successful immoderate intersexual enactment that they are not 100 per cent comfy with.

Please bash not cave successful simply to appease your hubby arsenic agelong word this volition lone origin resentment and much issues.

Mummification comes nether the umbrella of BDSM and for those who practise it, the attraction is exploring constraint, spot and surrender.

But consent is the cornerstone and indispensable beryllium fixed freely. Without this, it’s a implicit non-starter.

You are assuming your hubby isn’t satisfied but you request to person a speech with him astir his kink.

Can helium compromise? Would helium similar to beryllium little babelike connected this kink? 

Suggest you some sojourn a enactment and narration therapist who volition assistance you research what your options are. COSRT (cosrt.org.uk) volition assistance link you with a reputable practitioner.