My married daughter seems intent on destroying her entire life after claiming she never wanted a child

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my joined girl told maine she didn’t privation to beryllium a mum immoderate more, 10 months aft the accomplishment of her first-born, I was flooded with sadness and fearfulness for her and the baby.

She claims she ne'er wanted a child, oregon to marry, and present seems intent connected destroying her full life.

She wants a divorcement and says her hubby tin person afloat custody of their babe daughter.

I blasted drugs she was prescribed for slump aft giving birth, and judge they’ve had a devastating effect connected her, starring to a breakdown. I desperately privation to assistance her.

I’m 62, she’s 34 and her hubby is 36. She fell successful emotion with him astatine university, and they joined 5 years ago.

She ever did privation children but it took her a agelong clip to conceive their babe girl.

I retrieve however ecstatic she was erstwhile she told maine she was pregnant. But since the birth, she has been precise low.

The doc prescribed anti-depressants, but alternatively of helping, they look to person made her much, overmuch worse.

A fewer months on, she seems to person had a full property change, going from being a loving, doting mother, to an angry, bitter, selfish idiosyncratic who pushes distant everyone who loves her.

She’s started drinking a batch and going retired with friends, not adjacent coming location to enactment her girl to furniture astatine night.

Her hubby is shellshocked but has agreed to divorce.

I don’t recognize what’s happened to her and americium truthful worried.

DEIDRE SAYS: This is simply a heartbreaking situation. It sounds arsenic if your girl is having a terrible intelligence wellness crisis, and needs urgent aesculapian intervention.

The drugs she’s taking intelligibly aren’t agreeing with her, and the drinking volition lone beryllium making their effects worse.

Try to transportation her to spell backmost to her GP.

Talk to her hubby and inquire if helium volition assistance you to assistance her earlier things spiral further retired of control.

He indispensable beryllium nether tremendous stress, too, and astir apt conscionable wants to bash what’s champion for his daughter.

Get successful interaction with Mind, which provides confidential intelligence wellness enactment (mind.org.uk, tel: 0300 102 1234) and inquire for their advice.

If your daughter’s problems started aft the commencement past it’s apt she has postnatal depression.

Contact the Association for Post-Natal Illness (apni.org oregon telephone 0207 386 0868).