My new girlfriend is in Alcoholics Anonymous but I don’t want to quit drinking

DEAR DEIDRE: I WANT to enactment my caller woman done the Alcoholics Anonymous 12 Step programme, but preferably without quitting booze.

She’s 26 and I’m 27.

We went to the aforesaid schoolhouse but we were precise different: She was dancing connected tables successful pubs, I was focused connected ­college and work.

I bumped into her again recently.

She had calmed down and looked great.

We started dating and it’s going well.

But she conscionable told maine she is teetotal and moving done the AA steps.

I privation to enactment her but I emotion drinking erstwhile I spell out.

Do I person to quit?

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s large your woman is moving connected her intoxicant addiction.

There’s nary unit connected you to springiness up wholly too, but beryllium mindful that drink­ing astir her, particularly astatine home, volition marque it harder for her.

Al-anonuk.org.uk (0800 0086 811) supports the partners and families of alcoholics and runs enactment groups online and in-person.

And my enactment battalion Dealing With A Problem Drinker has much advice.