My partner’s midlife crisis has turned into a full-on mental breakdown

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner’s midlife situation has turned into a full-on breakdown.

Now he’s walked retired connected me, saying helium needs to beryllium alone, and I’m heartbroken.

I’m 42 and he’s 45. We’ve been unneurotic for 7 years.

Things started to spell incorrect a mates of years ago, erstwhile helium mislaid his occupation and his confidence. 

He got depressed, but I supported him done it.

But past weekend, we had a disagreement and retired of obscurity helium screamed that helium was leaving.

He past walked retired the beforehand door, and I haven’t seen him since. 

He’s since messaged to accidental that helium feels his beingness is pointless, his vocation is rubbish, and helium volition ne'er gain enough. 

I miss him and privation him back, but helium said helium can’t committedness anything. 

He made maine committedness not to interaction him astatine all.

I’m devastated and don’t cognize what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve had a unspeakable shock, which has sent you reeling. 

It’s apt your spouse has been reasoning astir this for a while, but hasn’t felt capable to archer you.

He’s been assessing his life, and concluded he’s not bully capable - adjacent though you disagree.

Although you can’t marque him travel back, you tin marque it wide you emotion him and are determination for him erstwhile he’s acceptable to talk.

You could constitute him a missive and see my enactment battalion Help For Your Depression to assistance him.

Speaking via 1 of his friends mightiness beryllium a mode of making definite he’s ok. 

Please confide successful idiosyncratic adjacent arsenic you besides request enactment with your feelings.