My son has been a complete nightmare since my wife and I split up

DEAR DEIDRE: EVER since my woman and I separated my lad has been wholly retired of control.

Whether he’s throwing a tantrum, bullying his sister, oregon ignoring everything I say, helium ne'er does arsenic he’s told.

I’ve tried everything to get done to him and don’t cognize however to get done to him.

I’m 42, my ex-wife is 39 and we precocious decided to get a divorcement aft 10 years of marriage. We stock 2 kids together, a girl who's 5 and a lad who’s eight.

We’d tried for years to enactment connected our narration but six months agone came to the decision that we would beryllium amended disconnected apart.

Our separation was amicable and we did everything we could to enactment our kids done the transition. While our girl seemed to set well, our lad is perpetually rude and difficult. 

Whether he’s with maine oregon his mother, determination are changeless tantrums and it’s arsenic if he’s doing everything helium tin to misbehave.

We can’t adjacent instrumentality him retired successful nationalist without him screaming and shouting astir something.

We’ve tried everything to subject him, from trying to talk to him calmly, giving him clip outs to confiscating his iPad and TV, but thing seems to work.

Where bash we spell from here?

DEIDRE SAYS: When parents abstracted it’s mean for young children to consciousness a premix of emotions from anger, confusion, vexation to sadness.

Oftentimes this tin transportation into behavioural problems causing them to enactment out.

Knowing however to navigate this clip with your lad volition beryllium hard, but with immoderate clip and patience things volition get amended eventually. 

Try to promote him to talk openly astir however helium feels and marque it wide to him that you’re determination to listen. 

Reassure him some you and your woman emotion him.

If thing changes, see getting him immoderate other support. Contact Family Live (familylives.org.uk), who tin help.