Watching my girlfriend have sex with other men turns me on like nothing else

DEAR DEIDRE: WATCHING my woman person enactment with different men turns maine connected similar thing else.

But adjacent though being cuckolded makes maine happy, I’m disquieted my fetish isn’t mean and mightiness halt maine having a steadfast relationship.

I’m 31 and my woman is 25. We’ve been unneurotic for 18 months.

A fewer months ago, I caught her cheating with a antheral friend. I was expected to beryllium connected a lads’ nighttime out, but came location early.

I fto myself into her flat, hoping we could walk the nighttime together, and recovered her successful furniture with this guy. 

It was a nasty daze but, alternatively of being aggravated oregon upset, I realised I was excited.

She was profoundly apologetic and begged maine to forgive her, saying it was a mistake.

Weeks later, I confessed it had really turned maine on. I said if she wanted to spot different men she could - arsenic agelong arsenic I could watch.

She was amazed but agreed, saying she wasn’t definite she was acceptable to beryllium monogamous, but didn’t privation to interruption up.

The archetypal clip she brought a feline home, she was nervous, but erstwhile she saw however turned connected I was she soon fto spell and enjoyed herself.

Afterwards, we had the champion enactment of our relationship.

Since then, she’s brought respective men backmost for sex.

However, I’ve started feeling anxious astir what we’re doing. I don’t deliberation it’s mean and I’m disquieted we’ll extremity up splitting.

I’m besides acrophobic I mightiness ne'er beryllium capable to spell backmost to a accepted relationship.

Should I beryllium worried, oregon is it good to person - and indulge - my cuckolding fetish?

DEIDRE SAYS: A cuckolding fetish is amazingly common. 

Many men archer maine they fantasise astir watching their partners person enactment with different men, and some, similar you, enactment retired their fantasies.

My enactment pack, Fetish Worries, should assistance you recognize much astir wherefore this turns you connected truthful much.

There are, of course, risks involved, truthful you’re close to deliberation cautiously astir what you’re doing. 

Jealousy tin beryllium an issue, oregon insecurity. Safe enactment is vital.

And if 1 of you wants to halt and the different doesn’t, this could beryllium a problem. 

So far, some you and your woman are enjoying doing this. But possibly you request to speech astir your fears and sermon wherever to spell from here.

It’s important to support communicating and to respect each other’s boundaries.