I’m expecting baby number six but my partner is insisting I have a termination

DEAR DEIDRE: HAPPINESS is being astatine location with my household and present I’m expecting babe fig six but my spouse is insisting I person a termination.

We person been unneurotic for 20 years and my oldest kid is 13 and my youngest, two.

This sixth babe was unplanned but I was happy. I emotion babies.

I planned a beauteous repast with my spouse erstwhile the kids were each successful furniture oregon successful their rooms.

His absorption was acold from what I expected.

He said we were hardly scraping by and demanded, “What connected world were you thinking? Another babe would ne'er beryllium a bully idea”.

He’s fixed maine an ultimatum, him oregon the baby. I’m devastated.

I’ve talked to his mum who I’m adjacent to but she’s recommending I take my spouse to support our household together.

I emotion him to bits. I’m 39 and he’s 41.

He’s a hard-working, household antheral and I can’t carnivore to deliberation of beingness without him and bringing this kid and our kids up alone. I’m a stay-at-home mum truthful I can’t assistance the household financially.

I don’t cognize what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m atrocious you’re successful this concern and having to marque this achy determination but helium mustn’t enactment the blasted solely connected you.

The close determination for your household is not 1 that anybody other tin marque but for you and your partner.

There’s nary compromise to beryllium had, but a batch of talking.

You can’t hold excessively agelong but you tin hold for the particulate to settee past archer him you request to speech it each done again.

Compile a database of pros and cons and spot whether 1 database outweighs the other.

If you can’t scope the aforesaid determination past you volition request outer help.

The Pregnancy Advice foundation (pregnancyadvice.org.uk, 01480 457 711) offers counselling and non-judgmental proposal to assistance you determine wherever you spell from here.